We are failing young girls and women and it is time we teach them that their worth isn’t tied to virginity or their ability to wait it out. But most importantly, we need to stop shaming those who choose not to wait.
If you are like me, 2016 has been an incredibly difficult year full of racism, misogynoir, and sadness. Music saved my sanity. It carried me, comforted me, guided me, and gave me solidarity, shelter, and freedom where there was none otherwise.
No matter who you are, it's hard to be happy for yourself or others when you don't see yourself as worthy. But there is a silver lining. Like most things in life, this can be fixed. For many of us, daily intentions and shifting our mindset does wonders in rehabbing our self esteem.
Brands like Black Opal and Creme Of Nature scored poorly, and beauty products from lipsticks, concealers, and foundations to sun protective makeup came in underperforming.
Whatever the situation, you are not beyond help. You are not alone, and you don’t have to walk alone in your journey of healing. The next steps may not be easy, but with the right support, you can conquer them, one step at a time.
In the first roundtable discussion of our new In Conversation series, five brave women sit down to share their personal stories of healing and moving forward after sexual assault, the cultural impact of rape culture and the power of self-truth.
Going without a bra isn’t just a statement to say no more oppression, it is a personal fight for my liberation. It is me putting my foot down to the patriarchy and saying ‘no more’. It’s a way to say to my body, which has endured constant shaming, that I love, cherish, and respect it if no one else will.
"The building blocks of my self-care are eight hours of sleep, lots of water, as much laughter and family time as possible, and following my heart around instead of my head."
"Too often women are not supported enough or are discouraged from choosing their path. I hope together we can change that. For me, it was a question of resilience. What others marked as flaws or disadvantages about myself – my race, my gender – I embraced as fuel for my success. I never let anything or anyone define me or my potential. I controlled my future."
"I don't want to cover up anymore. Not my face, not my mind, not my soul, not my thoughts, not my dreams, not my struggles, not my emotional growth. Nothing."
It’s World AIDS Day: You Need To Know That Black Women Account For Over 60 Percent Of New HIV Infections Among Women
Traditionally black women have always put everyone’s needs before their own and I think it’s time we discuss how we can mark World AIDS Day by starting a conversation about our health.
24 hours feels like nothing these days, doesn’t it? When adulting, life, and everything in-between collides, it just seems like there is never enough time in one day to take care of all of your to-do’s and you--but you have to. You’d be amazed at how one small moment of self-care can be the perfect medicine for the headaches of adulthood.
Most of us have experienced misogynoir and sexual racism from white men in some way, whether it’s the disgust of black womxn or the other end of the spectrum—the hypersexualization of black womxn on the other side. Both are equally painful, traumatizing, and marginalizing.