In case were you still towing the line on what to do with the whiteness that is Lena Dunham. In case you were feeling guilt over secretly staning for Girls and pretending that you are not really that big of a fan, your wait for making a concrete decision is over. During the most recent episode of her Women of the Hour podcast, Dunham recalled a visit to a Texas Planned Parenthood several years ago and coming to terms with her own internalized stigma surrounding abortion. Okay, we get that as the patriarchy is real for every woman. Things went south however when she described her response to being asked by a young girl to join a project where women share their stories of abortion.
“I always thought that I myself didn’t stigmatize abortion. I’m a abortion rights activist, it’s a huge part of who I am. But one day, when I was visiting a Planned Parenthood in Texas a few years ago, a young girl walked up to me and asked me if I’d like to be a part of her project in which women share their stories of abortion. I sort of jumped. ‘I haven’t had an abortion,’ I told her. I wanted to make it really clear to her that as much as I was going out and fighting for other women’s options, I myself had never had an abortion. And I realized then that even I was carrying within myself stigma around this issue. Even I, the woman who cares as much as anybody about a woman’s right to choose, felt it was important that people know I was unblemished in this department,” she tone deafly proclaimed.
She went on to say, “Now I can say that I still haven’t had an abortion, but I wish I had.”
This idea that women who get abortions are unethical or blemished and wishing to have gone through an abortion are highly insensitive. There is fighting for reproductive rights and then there is wishing you’d had an abortion so you can keep it “real” in the reproductive rights fight, and as you can see kids, one of these things is not like the other. Unfortunately, this seems to be a point lost on Lena.
There are plenty of women who feel empowered after their abortions. And contrary to popular belief, there are women who do not feel sad, overwhelmed or “blemished.” Abortion is a personal experience that each woman handles differently and it is extremely tone-deaf and privileged for Lena Dunahm to wish she’d had one simply so she would be able to deal with the internalized stigmas she has about abortion.
From insinuating NFL star Odell Beckham wouldn’t objectify her at this years Met Gala because she’s plus size to laughing at rape jokes with Amy Schumer, it’s clear that she is the definition of the worst kind of feminist.