Today is the last day of Women’s History Month. Honestly, I am a woman who enjoys celebrating womanhood year round. This month I wasn’t able to fit in much “celebration” because I was extremely busy, but as the month came to a close, I decided in a very impromptu moment to go to a photo exhibit about Frida Kahlo. This was not your average exhibit where a third party put together their third party ideas about Friday Kahlo. This was an exhibit that displayed Kahlo’s personal photos, most taken by her. I saw a different side of Frida and got to experience, for just a few moments, her life and her womanhood. After taking in the exhibit, these are five things of the many things that I walked away with:
1. FIND BEAUTY IN THE UNUSUAL: Embrace your beauty the way it was given to you. Frida was an expert at loving herself exactly the way she was and her signature unibrow is a prime example. A woman who challenged our ideas of feminine beauty by refusing to change the way she looked, turned her unibrow unique sign of beauty. Now, am I saying stop grooming yourself in ways that make you comfortable? No. People are beautiful. Period. Every intricacy, wrinkle, dimple, curve or “oddity”, you are given a type of beauty that is designed just for you. So why do we work so hard to change our unique features? That one “imperfection” is your signature and the more you love it, others will love it too. Life is your runway, flaunt you! “I used to think I was the strangest person in the world but then I thought there are so many people in the world, there must be someone just like me who feels bizarre and flawed in the same ways I do. I would imagine her, and imagine that she must be out there thinking of me too. Well, I hope that if you are out there and read this and know that, yes, it’s true I’m here, and I’m just as strange as you.” ? Frida
2. TOUGH CAN BE SEXY when applied correctly. There is something about a woman that acknowledges, understands and embraces her strength. Frida unapologetically lived her life exactly the way she saw fit. Through her sexuality, fashion sense, politics, or art, Frida never apologized for being authentically her, once professing, “I was born a bitch. I was born a painter.” It was sexy. People were drawn to her strong personality. She was a boss. She was a bad ass! Imagine if you were the complete and total boss of your life, the captain of your ship. How much more of your life would you see? How much further would you go? To own your life is strength unparalleled. Hey, you are not bossy but you are a boss and there is nothing wrong with that. “I must fight with all my strength so that the little positive things that my health allows me to do might be pointed toward helping the revolution. The only real reason for living.” -Frida
3. FIND PASSION IN THE LEAST EXPECTED PLACES and let it spark a flame in your being. Sounds a bit dramatic? Yes, but this is serious. Frida was involved in an accident that changer her life. I thought, if it wasn’t for that accident would we know the Frida that we know today? Maybe, maybe not. What we do know is that because of her accident, she found a reason to paint, relentlessly. Frida found a passion in her tragedy. She became her canvas and she became very candid about her life and her struggles. Life has a funny way of talking to us and if we listen, we are enlightened and we fall into our destiny. What is your passion? What is life trying to show you? It’s time to listen and find out. “Really, I do not know whether my paintings are surrealist or not, but I do know that they are the frankest expression of myself.” -Frida
4. THERE IS TRUE SELF DISCOVERY IN SOLITUDE. We often say, that we hate being alone or we don’t like being lonely. Frida spent a considerable amount of time with herself. While doing so, she explored her inner self and learned to express herself so beautifully that Frida became one of the greatest artistic, cultural, feminine symbols of strength we have ever seen. Amid our busy lives, it is hard to set aside time for yourself. But when the effort is truly made, self-exploration is beyond rewarding. Recently, I drove to the beach just to sit by myself and write and be alone with my thoughts. Solitude is powerfully connected to a sense of freedom, transcendence, imagination, intellect and the power to think clearly and independently. Who doesn’t think that’s a good idea? “I paint myself because I am so often alone and because I am the subject I know best.” ? Frida
5. BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF. Your reality is your reality and your life is your life. Always remember that when you find yourself wanting to compare your passing troubles to someone else’s highlight reel or vice versa. The “perfectness” of social media, the barrage of television and magazines and overall daily life can sometimes make you feel like you and what you have are not enough. There is a beauty in owning your experiences and accepting all of the things that make you the woman that you are today and that also includes the troubles, tears and sadness that have brought you to this exact moment. Frida realized that our lives are not perfect and are a painting of both bright and dark colors. It is when these colors come together that a beautiful picture is painted. “I never paint dreams or nightmares. I paint my own reality.” – Frida
#FindYourInnerFrida #TeamWomen #YouAreBeautiful
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