Through her albums, we are attending Janet Jackson master classes in sexuality, humanity and love. It's a beautifully poetic and rigorous course load. Here are some key lessons she has guided us through.
It's an easy scapegoat to look at someone else and say they are the cause of your problems, but if you keep inviting havoc into your life--by not addressing whatever is causing you to act a certain way or make certain choices, then you are actually the cause of your problems, not the person or thing you invited in.
No longer will we come into spaces and be hidden in corners. Fat femmes are at the forefront and are not settling for mistreatment. We don't have to.
We are failing young girls and women and it is time we teach them that their worth isn’t tied to virginity or their ability to wait it out. But most importantly, we need to stop shaming those who choose not to wait.
No matter who you are, it's hard to be happy for yourself or others when you don't see yourself as worthy. But there is a silver lining. Like most things in life, this can be fixed. For many of us, daily intentions and shifting our mindset does wonders in rehabbing our self esteem.
Whatever the situation, you are not beyond help. You are not alone, and you don’t have to walk alone in your journey of healing. The next steps may not be easy, but with the right support, you can conquer them, one step at a time.
Going without a bra isn’t just a statement to say no more oppression, it is a personal fight for my liberation. It is me putting my foot down to the patriarchy and saying ‘no more’. It’s a way to say to my body, which has endured constant shaming, that I love, cherish, and respect it if no one else will.
"The building blocks of my self-care are eight hours of sleep, lots of water, as much laughter and family time as possible, and following my heart around instead of my head."