Here are the self-guiding goals/rules I’ve created for myself to help me achieve greatness next year. Hint: It involves Kanye and weird ass clothes.
If you are like me, 2016 has been an incredibly difficult year full of racism, misogynoir, and sadness. Music saved my sanity. It carried me, comforted me, guided me, and gave me solidarity, shelter, and freedom where there was none otherwise.
Going without a bra isn’t just a statement to say no more oppression, it is a personal fight for my liberation. It is me putting my foot down to the patriarchy and saying ‘no more’. It’s a way to say to my body, which has endured constant shaming, that I love, cherish, and respect it if no one else will.
Most of us have experienced misogynoir and sexual racism from white men in some way, whether it’s the disgust of black womxn or the other end of the spectrum—the hypersexualization of black womxn on the other side. Both are equally painful, traumatizing, and marginalizing.
The first and most important rule is this: make a home of yourself. If you make a home of yourself first, the rest will follow. Stay strong, and remember self-care is paramount. Don’t ever rely on another person for foundation, strength, respect, self-love, or power.